Tips on how to support parental authority
Maintaining parental authority is not always as simple as it seems. Therefore, here are some tips on how to support and strengthen it for children of different ages.
from 1 year to 3 years - protect and teach to obey
Encourage, not prohibit: deliberately create situations in which the child can show independence.
Useful words: how good you are.
To warn attempts: the child should understand, that from it wait.
Useful words: instead of "what's stupid" - "I do not want you to touch the computer."
Explain their decisions: when the child does not get what he wants, the parent needs to explain why the particular need is ignored. As Deni writes, a small child spends 40% of the time in anticipation.
Learn to respect the other: parents influence the behavior of the child in society and in their power not to restrain bad behavior, but to offer an alternative and teach to respect the interests of another.
A useful game: offer fun "lessons of courtesy" when children play different toys and on the team share them with a friend.
from 3 to 6 years - we encourage and share power
Suspension is an unerring method for stopping bad behavior (spitting, fights) and doing it without telling the child publicly. Do not put him in a corner as a punishment, but leave for a few minutes "in a corner for thought." It is necessary to explain to the child that he may be unhappy, but he has no right to order the parents or fight with them. Teach him to distinguish urgent needs from those whose performance he can wait.
How to teach a child not to be selfish
Clear parental "no" is much more effective than any punishment. It's easy to forget about easy punishments. Severe punishment does not teach anything, causing only a desire to take revenge. A child can also say "no" to his friends if they offer a forbidden game. This ability develops his confidence and teaches self-discipline.
"Help the child to realize his dignity, judge him only on his business and do not compare to anyone. Gradually, he will understand that the privilege of "big" is not only to lead the "little ones".
from 6 to 10 years - teach self-discipline
It is better to give up trying to control when the child has passive resistance or forgets about his academic duties. In this case, the training regime and monitoring of its implementation must be entrusted to the child himself.
Solving conflicts with peers:
- To ascertain the problem;
- Ask the child to find a solution;
- To understand which of the offended children is required to "repair the damage";
- Praise the child when his apologies are accepted.
Involve the student in the home. Duties in the home bring up responsibility. For this to work, allow the child to choose his own duties. He can come up with several rules for the family, and at the same time punish all those who do not.